I am afraid of other people’s disapproval of me

when these other people have no power over me. - Ellis  

So here is my conundrum.  I must do well and win the approval of others or else I am no good

The fear is a result of calling myself no good resulting in anxiety, depression, embarrassment, guilt, and shame.

Is there any evidence that I’m no good? Well, I’m not all bad, if I want to stay with a rating system.

However, I choose not to rate myself at all, essentially dumping the notion of self esteem and what happens then? 

I’m free. To pursue satisfaction.

So what happens when I’m inevitably sometimes disapproved of? Other peoples likes and dislikes describe them. I highly prefer (in some cases) to have the approval of others to aid in getting shelter, income, communication, companionship, and sex, but I don’t have to.

So I now experience concern, sadness, annoyance, regret, disappointment which are motivating to make changes if desired. Motivating to create satisfaction, the purpose of my life. Satisfying changes such as nicer friends, jobs, accommodation, and doing satisfying alone activities from art making to toenail cutting.