Arrogance (blame shifting)

 Neurodivergent

    I went to what we called college later we called it university. I was asked to tutor Neurodivergent  kids helping them with writing their papers. I gave them a strategy and off they went, I hope it worked. I fell in love with the kids, I was 40ish and they were teens; we were all studying visual art. Another similarity, we were all recovering from abuse, the details are different but its all being undervalued basically, abuse is abuse and abandonment is abuse.

    So I listened to their stories and then showed them what I used to write it down.

    In visual art we are taught to work from the general to the specific, as a painter I don’t have to get very specific at all, in fact the details often are irrelevant. So we wrote a general outline and then filled it in. The opening sentence was, this is what I’m writing about generally. I stole the format from Albert Ellis, a doctorate of psychology, here is an example. W.O. Mitchell the famous father of a past girlfriend told me to write the way I talk, so I told them that too.

    Growing up I was often chastised for showing off by older siblings and my narcissist surviving parent. Just recently at the seniors building where I live I was criticized for having a clean waxed car. I said I did it to make you look bad. I don’t tolerate it anymore.

    My brother refused to come to the ceremony where I was awarded my second degree. Both my brothers and my sister refused to honour my accomplishment as well actually. He said I was putting on airs. I released him back to the wild until he was dying of brain cancer. When in hospital he said I changed my life how did I do that he desperately wanted to know. Words fail. A family therapist said to just consider myself an orphan.