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Criticism and Critique The abuser criticizes using their likes and dislikes as manipulation. It causes anxiety, depression, guilt, hurt, jealousy, shame embarrassment and rage. Then they criticize for the very things they caused saying you need more of what they have to sell you to fix it, or some other solution that is in their interests but not yours. I have met folks that criticize for fun like pulling wings off flies to enjoy the reaction. In my love relationship sex, communication and companionship was then conditionally withheld and thereby weaponized as a result. I find no satisfaction in being manipulated. Their likes and dislikes only describe them. When I rationally say: There is no reason why I must not be criticized as the universe is not a safe place, I find it sad, annoying, concerning. I feel regret and disappointment. I feel motivated to: Disengage and find nicer friends, jobs, lovers, accommodation, leisure activities, mechanics and philosophy of life. ...

  instead of chasing ghosts to get them to like and accept me… I woke up that morning with a clear memory of Robert Haladay a local character from the restaurant business with severe NPD (narcissist personality disorder). My memory included how I felt when he liked and accepted me and how I felt when he dumped me leaving me in the lurch. He was the consummate manipulator. As a result I woke up this morning seeing the same pattern when my Mom threatened me with a stick with a nail in it. I was 2 years old at the time being traumatized by this woman who had up until then only showed me unconditional care. It was very easy to see the over-value, under-value, dump and smear events; the man was gross and loud, no subtle manipulations at all. So was my Mom a sexual abuse survivor from a remote island, come to think of it. What I thought this morning: what had made me vulnerable and subject to manipulation was clearly I must do well and win the approval of others or else I am no...